Jennifer Lopez and Marc Anthony are divorcing.

The couple, who married in 2004, announced their split in a joint statement: “We have decided to end our marriage. This was a very difficult decision. We have come to an amicable conclusion on all matters. It is a painful time for all involved and we appreciate the respect of our privacy at this time.”

The announcement came as a surprise to friends who were at their sixth wedding anniversary last year, where the couple renewed their vows.

It was J-Lo’s third marriage – she was hitched to waiter Ojani Noa for 11 months in 1997 and married backing dancer Cris Judd in September 2001; they separated before they reached their first anniversary.

The On The Floor singer was also close to marrying Ben Affleck in 2003 but they split just hours before the wedding; she also had a two-and-a-half year relationship with Diddy.

Just last year Jennifer described her husband, who she briefly dated in the nineties before they reconciled after she split from Affleck, as her soulmate. “We make each other better,” she said of Marc. “We reconnected like we had never been apart. It was really the same chemistry and connection we had at the very beginning.”

The American Idol judge and her husband are the parents of three-year-old twins Max and Emme.